How do I be a good spouse when they have Parkinson's?"
"How do I" get through......?"
(you fill in the blank)
"I don't have anyone I can really share this with, and who would even want to understand, anyway?"
...or maybe it's more of an existential question, like what does it all mean? What’s it all for? What was I put here for? Where is it all heading?
Life-Coaching focuses on a person’s present and future, with the goal of helping them to create actionable strategies to resolve important issues in their life.
Counseling concentrates predominantly on the person’s past and deals with healing emotional pain.
The focus in a life-coaching relationship is on goals, action and accountability, although an experienced coach will know when to look at the past should it inform the present and help identify limiting belief systems.
, my role is to provide an unconditional safe place for you to get beyond whatever it is that's troubling you. I have no desire to change anything that's working for you; I only want to work with you on what's not working for you. I will
without judgment where you're coming from, ask pertinent questions, provide guidance to help you keep on track, and encourage your efforts.
You've heard it said, "two heads are better than one"; collaboration with a life coach can give you the extra leverage you need to recognize and overcome what's standing in your way.
is based on the belief that we are prepared by our life experience to find the outcomes we truly want.
I believe that first, we need to recognize what's standing in our way and be willing to accept and work with whatever that is.
Second, find the blocks buried within the kaleidoscope of mental noise in our head that tends to distract us from achieving our goal.
Coaching can help with that.
Clearing our heads works best when we have the privacy, time, and space to consider, reflect, and
Using a form of journaling, simply writing in an email your thoughts and feelings to understand them more clearly, and dialoguing with your coach to help you refine your thinking until you reach your desired outcome.
Journaling should not be confused with what's known as Expressive Writing, which is the method of spending 15-20 minutes daily writing down as quickly as possible your very most secret intimate feelings for only you to see, and then immediately destroying what you have just written.
Sometimes to begin your email, it can be helpful using expressive writing as a basic platform and fleshing it out, describing those thoughts that are pertinent to desired outcome.
our thoughts, referring back in our thinking when we need to. It is important to think clearly all the way through something without the distractions from competing thoughts, feelings, and images...or something going on around us. Also extremely helpful is to know you are writing with a purpose, that someone will be reading your thoughts and who will provide caring, non-judgmental feedback, all within the context of the security of unconditional
Using a highly secure channel on the Internet for us to communicate is one of the
My 10 Good Reasons
For Using Email
there are to facilitate that process, and give us as much privacy as we desire.
I am an experienced
and trained to listen. My SPC training includes completing over 150 volunteer hours: 35 hours of seminar training over 14 weeks by MFT licensed counselors; 76 hours of in-service training; 48 hours of supervised sessions with both male & female clients.
Based on experience, it works best to have one
An email Sent from you and my Reply to your email constitutes one Session
per week to allow time for both of us to reflect, consider, and write, and yes, even re-writing out our responses until we've said exactly what we mean to say.
I am still gratefully married to the same wonderful woman that took a chance on me decades ago and who now has Parkinson's Disease.
My life is a very long story, but in brief, I am a Veteran and retired businessman. Over the years as an independent business owner, I have experienced many failures and successes. I have experienced profound grief as well as the many joys of fatherhood, but enough about me.
Perhaps you would you like to send me an email and tell me about what's troubling you? Or, maybe there's something you'd like to ask?
As the Mad Hatter so wisely quipped,
“How you get there is where you arrive."